“Before reading A Course in Miracles, I had studied many spiritual and philosophical works. I felt they led me to a vast staircase toward a majestic cathedral in my mind, but as soon as I reached the stairs, the church door turned out to be locked. The Course gave me the key that opened the […]
“The change we’re looking for is inside our hearts. Events are always effects. One day people love you; the next day you’re their target. One day things are going smoothly; the next day it feels like you’re a total failure. There will always be ups and downs in life. They are part of the human […]
“Sometimes people who have nothing to offer in a real relationship look like they are bringing us the whole world. They are so detached from their own feelings that they have become genius actors, unconsciously playing the role written by our fantasy. But the responsibility for the pain we experience remains our own. If we […]
“When we speak, the key to communication is not what we say but the attitude behind what we say. And because there is only one mind, we are all communicating telepathically all the time. Every time we choose whether to join or to separate, the person we’re talking to feels our choice regardless of our […]
“Our susceptibility to the myth of ‘Mr. Right’ comes from our glorification of romantic love. The ego uses romantic love for its ‘special purposes,’ causing us to jeopardize relationships by overvaluing their romantic content. The difference between friendship and infatuation can be illustrated with the image of a long-stemmed rose. The stem is the friendship, […]
“Thoughts are like information data programmed into a computer, which are then registered on the screen of your life. If you don’t like what you see on the screen, there’s no point in trying to erase it. Thought is the cause; experience is the effect. If you don’t like the effects in your life, you […]
“None of us is objectively attractive or unattractive. There is no such thing. I have been with men who did not think I was good enough at all. I have also been with men who were smart enough to say, ‘You look beautiful tonight’ often enough to boost my self-esteem and help me manifest myself […]
“People ask, ‘Why can’t I find a deep, loving relationship?’ The question is understandable, because people are lonely… When we are alone, the ego makes it seem as though all pain would disappear if only we had a boyfriend or girlfriend. But if a relationship takes hold, it will bring as much of our existential […]
“When we ask God to heal our lives, He shines a bright light on everything we need to look at. Within ourselves, we notice things we might have preferred not to see. We have a thick armor surrounding our hearts—a lot of fear masking itself as something else. As anyone who has undergone serious psychotherapy […]
“Cultivating spiritual peace, or surrender, is like eating healthy food. It doesn’t lead to immediate renewal, but over time it charges us with much more energy. This does not require sitting in the lotus position all day long. We continue to feel excitement and emotion, but more gently. Many people liken the spiritual life to […]
“How do we find a holy relationship? Not by asking God to change our partner, but by asking Him to change our thinking… The prayer looks something like this: ‘Dear God, You know and I know that in this area I have more potential for neurosis than in any other. Please take my attraction, my […]
“In recent years, it has become popular to ‘set goals.’ Goal setting is a process of focusing the mind on a desired result. It is one more attempt by the mind to make the world do what we want it to do. This is not spiritual surrender. A Course in Miracles makes a distinction between […]
