“A person can be deeply depressed and entirely unaware of their feelings… The definition of clinical depression includes a person’s refusal to acknowledge that they are deeply despairing. Many depressed people usually do not know that they are unhappy, because they cannot articulate their misery; instead, they display the symptoms of depression. They drift about, […]
“Fear is in the eye of the beholder. (Don’t let that be you.)”
“To know where the other person makes a mistake is of little value. It only becomes interesting when you know where you make the mistake, for then you can do something about it.”— Carl G. Jung, The Collected Works (Aion, CW 9ii, Para 424)
I haven’t recommended a book in a while, but a recent conversation with a client gave me the perfect reason to do so. The book is Basic Forms of Fear by Fritz Riemann. While many may have already read it, it was first published in 1961, I still want to highlight it because it remains […]
There is a parable about the tortoise and the scorpion that I felt like commenting on: “Once, the tortoise gave in to the scorpion’s pleas to carry him on her back across the river. The scorpion sat still for most of the way, but just before reaching the other bank, he couldn’t help himself and […]
“Start now. Start where you are. Start with pain. Start with doubt. Start with hands shaking. Start with voice trembling, but start. Start and don’t stop. Start where you are, with what you have. Just start.” Ijeoma Umebinyuo Every beginning is the beginning with “hands shaking“. At first glance it looks like fear. At second […]
This is a story told by Lin Chi, which a close friend sent to me a while ago, and now I feel the urge to pass it on. For me, it is the best thing I have ever encountered regarding how we can stop taking life’s events personally. “When I was young, I used to […]
from Mark Serra’s book “The Culture of Respect” The Three Men The first man is powerful, but emotionally immature and therefore – often destructive. Macho, the man of men. The second man is sensitive and good-natured. Guilt and shame make him weak. Indecisive, subject to Woman. The third man is uncompromisingly faithful to himself. To […]
“The warrior of Light is never in a hurry. Time works in his favour; he learns to master his impatience and avoids acting without thinking. By walking slowly, he becomes aware of the firmness of his step. He knows that he is taking part in a decisive moment in the history of humanity and that […]
What Is a Spoiled Child “A spoiled child is not a child who receives too much of what it wants.A spoiled child is one who does not receive enough of what it needs.” This is Jesper Juul’s definition of a spoiled child from his book “Here I Am! Who are You?” Juul, a Danish family therapist […]
It has been a long time since I recommended books on my website, and to compensate, I will recommend three at once! This is because I am not just recommending the books, but their author—Jesper Juul, the Danish family therapist and author of numerous books on parent-child relationships and upbringing. His most famous work is […]
In his book “Being a Man and a Father”, the Danish family therapist Jesper Juul speaks about the inevitable crises that periodically arise in long-term relationships. Since a relationship is a living entity that is constantly evolving, development leads to change, and change—if not properly understood—leads to crisis. Knowledge is invaluable precisely in such moments. […]
