This is a continuation of the theme from the previous post regarding “The Sword of Discernment” and its application in healing our relationship with our family of origin. Once again, I will use a quote from Pamela Kribbe’s book, “The Jeshua Channelings”: *“When you embark on the path of spiritual growth, at some point this […]
*”You are all brave warriors. Your very presence in a physical body on Earth today speaks of your immense courage and readiness to face the darkness—within and without—and to bathe it in your light, the light of your consciousness. You are warriors in the spiritual sense of the word, and your equipment consists of compassion […]
The beauty of gratitude is that it gives us the freedom to let go of things that gave us much in the past but no longer correspond to the changes that have since occurred within us. This is how I feel regarding the method of Family Constellations, from which I once received a great deal. […]
“I would like to say something about the secret of the path. You advance on your path by leaving everything from before behind, even your old insights. But there is something more about the path. You reach the goal with the last step. Everything before that is simply preparation.” — Bert Hellinger I love this […]
“…premature reconciliation and forgiveness hinder constructive dialogue when they cover up or postpone conflict and leave its consequences to the other family members. This is particularly destructive when the one who was wronged attempts to release the offender from his or her guilt, as if victims had such power. When reconciliation is necessary, the person […]
In systemic constellations and the work of their creator, Bert Hellinger, there is a perspective that is perhaps less popular but certainly worth reflecting upon. As I shared in the article regarding Personal Conscience, one of the three basic needs that maintain human relationships in a healthy state is the balance between giving and taking. […]
*”The deeper a relationship becomes and the longer it exists, the more death enters and becomes a part of it. We may enter a partnership with the hope that it will fulfill us and end our need or loneliness. The reality, however, is that it inevitably leads to death. Even when love flourishes in a […]
According to Bert Hellinger, the creator of Family Constellations, jealousy is a feeling whose roots may lie deep within family history, often having nothing to do with the personality of the one experiencing it. If there is a connection, it is simply that this individual was born into a specific family system and has inherited […]
*”True love accepts and desires the other exactly as they are. This touches something very deep and allows love to flourish. When a woman treats her husband like a child, trying to change him or acting as if she knows what is best for him, he often takes a mistress. His mistress is his true […]
“When a wrong is committed against someone, they suffer helplessly. The more helpless the victim, the more severely we judge the offender. But the injured partner is rarely completely helpless after the harm has been done. They usually have the opportunity to act—either to end the relationship or to demand atonement from their partner, […]
According to Bert Hellinger, the creator of Family Constellations: *“In all our various relationships, our basic needs interact in complex ways: The need to belong, which is about bonding. The need to maintain a balance between giving and taking, which is about equilibrium. The need for the safety of social convention and predictability, which is […]
*“When he was 31 years old, the poet Rainer Maria Rilke wrote a letter to a friend: ‘Stop searching for the answers. You would not be able to live them if you found them.’ This is a very important psychotherapeutic axiom: do not give anyone an answer they are not ready to live.”* — Bert […]
