What makes love triangles a potential for spiritual transformation is that forgiveness—the only positive way of dealing with betrayal—is not a product of ego-will, but comes from a source that is different from the desire of our conscious attitude. No matter how much we want to forgive, we cannot, because forgiveness is the final result […]
“…premature reconciliation and forgiveness hinder constructive dialogue when they cover up or postpone conflict and leave its consequences to the other family members. This is particularly destructive when the one who was wronged attempts to release the offender from his or her guilt, as if victims had such power. When reconciliation is necessary, the person […]
The human psyche is exceptionally complex. Most of the reasons behind what happens in our lives lie outside the area illuminated by our conscious attitude. This is why psychological insight is so valuable, and it is the reason I want to share a quote from M. Scott Peck, where he explains the hidden causes of […]
“Many people suffer from the problem I call ‘cheap forgiveness.’ Upon their first visit to a therapist, they declare: ‘I know my childhood wasn’t ideal, but my parents did the best they could, and I forgive them.’ But as the therapist gets to know them, they discover that they haven’t forgiven their parents at all. […]
“There is no enlightenment without forgiveness for our parents. Whether we like it or not, our mother is our primary archetype of the adult female, and our father is our primary archetype of the adult male. If I am a man and I harbor resentment toward my mother, I will continually project guilt onto other […]
