There is a type of people who tend to postpone things.And they do not understand why, later on, things in their lives become worse and worse. Like an installment on a loan that is not paid on time, and the interest begins to accumulate…Like an overripe pear that remains untouched in the fruit bowl and […]
It seems that Exupéry understood not only Gestalt therapy, but also systemic psychotherapy, because he “tested” adults with his famous Drawing Number One and Drawing Number Two. He could be seen as a secret predecessor of this approach in psychotherapy, because long before systemic psychotherapists he discovered that there exists a reality different from the […]
The systemic approach in psychotherapy views the behavior of the identified patient as an expression of failed attempts to adapt to a dysfunctional family system. It challenges the conventional criterion of “adapting to reality” as an indicator of mental health or illness. “We are talking about a seemingly self-evident assumption that there exists an actual, […]
“The ability to live with relative realities, with questions that have no answer, with the knowledge that you know nothing and with the paradoxical unconsciousnesses of existence—this is precisely the essence of human maturity and the resulting tolerance toward others.” — Paul Watzlawick I very much like this thought by Paul Watzlawick from his book […]
“Ji Xingzi was training a fighting rooster for King Xuan of Zhou. After 10 days, the king asked if the rooster was ready for battle. — Not yet, he is still boastful and vainly shows off. After another 10 days, to the same question, Ji Xingzi replied: — Still not. He still lunges at every […]
Years ago, a friend shared a problem in her relationship. At the time, I was reading a book on the topic, so I enthusiastically recommended it to her. But she looked at me condescendingly and said, “Oh, Kamy, your books aren’t helping me.” And yet, inside, I couldn’t help wondering, “Why do these books help […]
When we learn to make decisions by developing sensitivity to circumstances and by trusting our inner nature, we gradually and almost imperceptibly become more patient. And this is very important, because there are decisions that we cannot make yet, simply because the inner preconditions for them have not ripened. I call these “ripe pear” decisions. […]
I recently came across an article on economy.bg about “Successful People Who Failed First.” And I have a soft spot for stories about people who overcame discouragement after failure. Like the little donkey that was thrown into a well but managed to climb out, they are living examples of turning obstacles into stepping stones on […]
Being able to openly express our emotions, and especially the most difficult ones, is crucial for our mental and physical health. Painful emotions do not disappear if they are suppressed or denied. Instead, they become unconscious, sinking into our bodies where they manifest in the form of physical symptoms or illness. Our relationships suffer as […]
Below is Osho’s response to a follower who shares that he feels depressed and self-judging, but does not know why. “This is the way to remain the same… this is a trick of the mind. Instead of moving toward understanding, the energy begins to move toward judgment… and change comes through understanding, not through judgment. […]
This is a continuation of the previous article on Intelligent Emotions. In it, I briefly outline the core ideas from David Viscott’s book The Language of Feelings about the crucial importance of being in contact with our emotions and being able to express them in an appropriate way. According to Viscott, if you want to […]
The theory of emotional intelligence is relatively new—the model was first proposed by Peter Salovey and John Mayer in 1990, defining EI as the ability to accurately perceive, understand, and manage emotions. When this skill is manifested in an interpersonal context, it leads to greater understanding with others, a capacity for empathy, influence, and leadership. […]
