Author. M.V. Lukovnikova Translated from Russian by Violeta Book Rejecting the Father… During the initial interview (a 6-years-old boy; severe neurotic disorder): – Who do you live with? – Mom. – And dad? – We kicked him out. – How come? – We divorced him… He humiliated us… He’s not a man… He ruined our […]
“The Knowing Field” is a phenomenon I first encountered as a participant in a Family Constellation group. What I witnessed and experienced then left such deep traces in my consciousness that my perception—both as a person and as a psychotherapist—has never been the same since. I was deeply impressed not only by Bert Hellinger’s theory […]
The beauty of gratitude is that it gives us the freedom to let go of things that gave us much in the past but no longer correspond to the changes that have since occurred within us. This is how I feel regarding the method of Family Constellations, from which I once received a great deal. […]
“…premature reconciliation and forgiveness hinder constructive dialogue when they cover up or postpone conflict and leave its consequences to the other family members. This is particularly destructive when the one who was wronged attempts to release the offender from his or her guilt, as if victims had such power. When reconciliation is necessary, the person […]
In systemic constellations and the work of their creator, Bert Hellinger, there is a perspective that is perhaps less popular but certainly worth reflecting upon. As I shared in the article regarding Personal Conscience, one of the three basic needs that maintain human relationships in a healthy state is the balance between giving and taking. […]
According to Bert Hellinger, the creator of Family Constellations, jealousy is a feeling whose roots may lie deep within family history, often having nothing to do with the personality of the one experiencing it. If there is a connection, it is simply that this individual was born into a specific family system and has inherited […]
*”True love accepts and desires the other exactly as they are. This touches something very deep and allows love to flourish. When a woman treats her husband like a child, trying to change him or acting as if she knows what is best for him, he often takes a mistress. His mistress is his true […]
“When a wrong is committed against someone, they suffer helplessly. The more helpless the victim, the more severely we judge the offender. But the injured partner is rarely completely helpless after the harm has been done. They usually have the opportunity to act—either to end the relationship or to demand atonement from their partner, […]
According to Bert Hellinger, the creator of Family Constellations: *“In all our various relationships, our basic needs interact in complex ways: The need to belong, which is about bonding. The need to maintain a balance between giving and taking, which is about equilibrium. The need for the safety of social convention and predictability, which is […]
I owe the method of family constellations not only my encounter with the field of knowledge and its healing potential, but also a deeper understanding of how the family past influences us and of the laws that govern the family soul. For this reason, I would like to express my gratitude to its creator, Bert […]
