The text below is from Osho’s Book of Secrets. He presents a very simple yet effective way of working with the emotions that arise in our relationships with other people, transforming them into awareness and inner strength. The technique (meditation) is as follows:
“When a mood for or against someone arises, do not direct it toward that person; remain centered.
Remember, you are the source of this mood… (because) we project our own moods onto others…
And when a mood for or against arises, immediately turn inward and go to the source from which this hatred arises. Someone has given you the chance to become aware of your own anger: thank them immediately and forget them. Close your eyes and direct your attention to the source from which this anger or love is arising.
This is not a technique of suppression. It is a technique that transforms the very basis of both expression and suppression… The emphasis is on knowing where this anger arises from… When you suppress, you are not moving toward the center. You are fighting expression.
Forget the other completely. Simply observe the energy of anger as it arises and move deeply inward to discover the place from which it arises. And the moment you discover the source, remain centered in it. Do nothing with the anger! Just use it as a path.
When you suppress, you are only fighting with the energy that is arising and trying to find some expression. You may suppress it, but sooner or later it will manifest, because you cannot fight the energy that has arisen. If you do not express it, you will feel burdened, tense, heavy, and ill. Suppression is nothing but a postponement of expression. You can postpone it for months, for years, even for a lifetime.
Remember this: energy is neither anger nor love nor hatred. Energy is simply energy—neutral. This energy becomes love, sex, hatred. You, your mind, give it the form, and the energy manifests through it.
Therefore, if you love intensely, you will not have much love left with which to be angry. If you do not love at all, you will have much energy to be angry with and will seek situations in which to become angry…”
— Osho
