“If you really want to know your mind, the body will always give you a truthful reflection, so look at the emotion, or rather feel it in your body. If there is a clear conflict between them, the thought will be the lie, the emotion will be the truth. Not the ultimate truth of who you are, but the relative truth of your state of mind at that time.
Conflict between surface thoughts and unconscious mental processes is certainly common. You may not yet be able to bring your unconscious mind activity into awareness as thoughts, but it will always be reflected in the body as an emotion, and of this you can become aware.”
— Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now
Although this insight by Eckhart Tolle does not explicitly mention relationships, it points toward something vital for them: being clear with ourselves about how we truly feel toward the other person.
Quite often, we try to do the “right” things—those we’ve learned help build fulfilling connections—but we do them on a false foundation, based on thoughts that do not rest on the truth of our feelings. In such cases, all our efforts go to waste.
This message from the “Lessons of Love” comes to you now to encourage you to explore the reality of your feelings. Do you truly feel the way you think you feel?
