“Everyone wants to be loved, and this is a wrong beginning.
All this starts because the small child cannot love, cannot say anything, cannot do anything, cannot give anything; it can only receive. The child’s experience of love is that of receiving; receiving from the mother; receiving from the father; receiving from brothers and sisters; receiving from guests or from strangers — but always receiving. Thus, the first experience that becomes deeply established in the subconscious is that one has to receive love.
But the problem arises because everyone has been a child and everyone has this impulse to receive love; no one is born any other way. So everyone says, ‘Give me love,’ but there is no one to give it, because the other person has grown up in exactly the same way. One has to be awake and aware that the simple fact of birth should not remain the dominant state of your mind.
Instead of wanting ‘Give me love,’ start giving love yourself. Forget about receiving — just give. And I guarantee that you will receive much.
But you must not think about receiving at all — not even indirectly, secretly watching whether you receive or not. Just give, because giving love is so beautiful that receiving love does not seem so great. This is one of the secrets. Giving love is truly a beautiful experience, because you are an emperor. Receiving love is a very small experience; it is the experience of a beggar. Do not be a beggar. As far as love is concerned, be an emperor, because it is an inexhaustible quality within you. You can give as much as you want. Do not worry that you will be exhausted, that one day suddenly you will discover, ‘Oh my God! I have no love left to give!’
Love is a question of quality, not of quantity; it is a quality, and a quality of a special category — it grows by giving and dies if you hold it back.
If you are stingy with it, it dies. So really be a spendthrift with love. Do not worry about whom you give it to — that is truly the idea of the miserly mind: ‘I will give love only to certain people with special qualities.’ You do not understand that you have so much… you are like a rain cloud. The rain cloud does not care where it rains — on rocks, on gardens, in the ocean — it truly does not matter to it. It wants to unload its burden. And this unloading brings immense relief. So the first secret is: Do not ask to be given love and do not wait to give love only when someone asks you. Give it!
Just give love to everyone — even to the stranger. It is not about giving something very valuable; just an outstretched hand is enough.
For twenty-four hours, whatever you do, if you do it with love, the pain in your heart will disappear.
And because you are so loving, people will love you. This is a natural law. You receive what you give. In fact, you receive more than you give.”
Osho
What a beautiful lesson — be royal in your love and give generously, because you have abundance! And the more you give, the more you will receive.
The difficulty here is that on the level of the empirical self / ego, the coin has two sides. If there is no balance between giving and receiving, a person becomes depleted. Exhaustion comes either when one has difficulty receiving, or when one gives with the attitude that one’s giving is unconditional, while in fact there are hidden expectations to receive.
That is why it is important to distinguish between the two levels of the Self — the earthly self and the higher Self (the archetype from which it originates). The thought above refers to the second level. On the level of the infinite Source, often called Spirit, the law of exchange truly is “the more — the more.” But in order to be able to give from that level, one must first build a healthy ego — that is, unite the opposites within oneself.
If this thought is reaching you now, explore whether it might be drawing your attention to the fact that you actually have a lot. True generosity is born from a sense of inner abundance — and that is precisely the message of the “games of synchronicity” for you at this moment.
Kameliya Hadzhiyska
Note: The quotations are translated from Bulgarian and are not presented as verbatim citations.
