I have written on this topic before, but now I feel the urge to return to it once again. Many people have a tendency to become exhausted and confused when they connect with other people’s suffering and with their desire to help. This happens because they “put the cart before the horse” and, instead of asking themselves to what extent the problem of others has already been resolved within themselves, they begin to feel guilty for another person’s unhappiness and therefore obligated to do something about it.
So-called “lightworkers” are even more prone to this attitude, yet they are usually not aware of it. What they register instead is only the weakening sense of guilt and inner heaviness.
In such cases, the solution is to ask whether what disturbs them in others has been resolved within themselves. If it has not, they should turn inward and take responsibility for resolving it there. Only then will they be able to help others in a way that does not generate exhaustion or confusion. At that point, their mere presence will often be enough—to have someone nearby who embodies the principle of the solution within themselves is a true blessing. At other times, concrete action will be required, but such actions will be the right ones, because they will be grounded in respect for another person’s fate and free from the projections of one’s own unresolved issues.
In short, the battles of the warriors of light are inner battles. Pamela Kribbe expresses this particularly well:
“At the deepest level, your souls wish to take responsibility for the darkness they have spread. But taking responsibility for your dark side is, by nature, an individual task. It has nothing to do with helping or healing others. It concerns only you.
Of course, in this process you will help others, but that is a secondary effect.
You see, it is important to understand the correct order of things here, because you have a tendency to be overly diligent in helping others.
Your enthusiasm for helping others often traps you, because your energy becomes entangled with the energy of others, and afterward you frequently feel exhausted and disappointed.
Please remember: giving more than you receive is not a sign of nobility or kindness—it is simply a mistake.
The mistake lies in believing that you are, to some extent, responsible for another person’s situation or state of mind. You are not. Everyone is responsible for their own happiness or unhappiness. And this is, without a doubt, a blessing, because it grants each person the power to create—and therefore to change—their own reality.”
