“When you decide to do something, commit to it fully while doing it. What so often happens is that people choose to do something and then don’t commit to it fully – they don’t say their total yes to it while they’re doing it. Instead, they might complain about doing it, daydream about doing something else, or just not put their whole selves into it while doing it. The ego tends to resist and distance itself even from what it has chosen to do.”
Gina Lake, “Living in the Now”*
It may seem strange to you, but most of our problems are not solved because of this simple fact – we are not 100% committed to the decision we have made. Unhappy and unfulfilling relationships can’t end because we weren’t fully involved in them and there was always an open door. Therefore, we are still stuck in the relationship, because how can you move beyond something if you have failed to get to the end before? In cases like that, you get the feeling that there’s probably more to be done. The thing that can still be done, however, is sometimes nothing other than giving yourself to the relationship, the job, or something else all the way through, one hundred per cent. When we do this, we’ll notice that resolutions to the unsatisfactory decisions we’ve made will begin to come spontaneously.
By committing ourselves fully to our choices – even if they later prove to be the wrong ones – we will still gain invaluable experience and inner strength once the journey is complete. the depth of the experience and the lessons learned will nourish the soul’s need for development. We will also be free from regret or self-blame for not having done what was necessary. Because we will have invested ourselves in this decision of purpose, we will know that if a given thing has not worked out, it is not because we have not given our best, but because it is an expression of that part of Destiny that is beyond our control.
To be thoroughly engaged in the things we do has the function of an accelerator and intensifier of everything we turn our attention to. Even if it turns out that the decision we have made is not the right one, we will quickly realize this and be able to change it much more easily. However, if we lack total commitment, it will be difficult to make any decision. Like a never-ending drama from which there is no end, the incomplete and unsatisfying things in our lives will drag on, leaving behind a sense of stagnation and stuckness. And we won’t even suspect that at the root of the whole thing is not someone else, but our friend, the ego, which is pointing its resistance in the wrong direction.
Do you know people who constantly slip away while you are discussing some important topic with them? No matter what you say, they will find arguments that are the opposite of what you say, and that sound no less convincing. The conversation with them gets nowhere and you end it feeling bitter. You don’t understand what the problem is and even tend to blame yourself for its failure because their arguments can be very logical and convincing. But there is a problem, and it is that there is a part inside them that loves to argue and feels good about disagreeing. This part is very resourceful to do this because for it, asserting its rightness is more important than opening up to the other person’s words and really hearing them. Not just with their mind, but with their heart. This is the part many spiritual teachers in our country call the “ego-mind”.
I recently had a client with whom the conversation (to put it metaphorically) went something like this. We started talking about the “green,” but soon after she said the green actually had “yellow dots.” I agreed that “the green has yellow dots”, but as we were discussing them, she decided to point out that the “yellow dots at the bottom of the green” were more than the “yellow dots at the top of the green”. We were still discussing the “distribution of yellow dots” when she added that there were actually some “red squares” at the top of the green as well. When it later turned out that some of the “squares” were actually “cubes”, I was not surprised. I already knew that whatever I said would not be heard. And this was most true of the most important part – the “green” – because that was where the answers to the questions that plagued her were contained. That part was the last thing she would have wanted to see because it would have caused her pain and discouragement in her rightness. Like a fisherman trying to catch a fish with his bare hands, I stood on the shore and regretted the missed opportunity for a real encounter between the two of us.
“Listening to the ego-mind will make you very unhappy, regardless of whether the choice is the right one in terms of Essence. The mind tests our choices and brings us frustration every moment. Even when we are in alignment with the intentions of the Essence, the mind often complains, doubts, questions and judges because that is what the mind does. Being true to one’s choices, even if they are the right ones, is a very difficult thing.” Gina Lake
It becomes especially challenging when difficulties arise. The way out of such situations is to see how far the mind serves the interests of the ego or the soul. Very often the difficulties we face are a test of our resolve. In this sense, we should not listen to the thoughts that tell us to give up. Instead, we should look for the inner sense of “rightness” that comes from beyond the mind and follow it. One hundred per cent.
“Although this may all seem a bit complicated, with a little checking and distinguishing between thoughts and intuitive feelings you will be able to determine for yourself what is the truth. Then when you make a choice, be sure to say yes to it if you do. Jump with both feet into who you choose to be, and do it with all your Heart. If you’ve tuned into your intuition, when the time comes to jump out of it, you’ll know when to make a different choice.” Gina Lake
This is a publication part of “the games of synchronicity”. If it comes to you now, see if it is not to urge you to commit one hundred per cent to the decision you have made, however difficult that may be for you. If it is not the right decision, the willingness to come out of this situation will soon mature in you. And if it is the right one, it will give you the strength to deal with the difficulties you are going through and see the process through. So, if you haven’t jumped into the challenge with both feet before, include the second foot now. Even if you land in a place you don’t like, because you were whole, you will have the strength to keep going. Walking with both feet.
Kameliya Hadzhiyska
*Note: The quotations are translated from Bulgarian and are not presented as verbatim citations.
