{"id":151944,"date":"2009-12-01T15:27:06","date_gmt":"2009-12-01T13:27:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/espirited.com\/bert-hellinger-and-the-method-of-family-constellations\/"},"modified":"2026-02-06T16:59:35","modified_gmt":"2026-02-06T14:59:35","slug":"bert-hellinger-and-the-method-of-family-constellations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/espirited.com\/en\/bert-hellinger-and-the-method-of-family-constellations\/","title":{"rendered":"Bert Hellinger and the Method of Family Constellations"},"content":{"rendered":"

I owe the method of family constellations not only my encounter with the field of knowledge<\/a> and its healing potential, but also a deeper understanding of how the family past influences us and of the laws that govern the family soul<\/strong>. For this reason, I would like to express my gratitude to its creator, Bert Hellinger, by briefly presenting his core ideas about healing the traumas within our family soul. These ideas help us understand our relationship with ancestors who had difficult destinies, yet whom we often do not even know; only the records of our spiritual DNA remember them, compelling us to experience hardships in life that have no rational explanation.<\/p>\n

Briefly put, according to the theoretical model of family constellations, psychological suffering is understood as the result of violations of the laws governing the family soul: (1) the law of belonging, (2) the law of order, and (3) the law of balance.<\/p>\n

Outsiders, stillborn children, those who died young, perpetrators and victims, and people who had particularly difficult destinies are present in the records of family memory and, under the influence of the laws listed above, affect the fate of some members of subsequent generations. The more sensitive members of the family system (the family soul) may unconsciously identify with an ancestor who had a difficult fate or who was excluded from the family because they had committed something unacceptable. This unconscious identification is called \u201cblind love\u201d<\/strong> and manifests itself in the repetition of that person\u2019s life drama, even when there are no real grounds for this in one\u2019s own life.<\/p>\n

Psychological suffering also arises from a blocked flow of \u201clove energy\u201d downward to subsequent generations. This occurs when parents were unable to give their children the attention and love they needed because they themselves had not received it from their own parents. Accordingly, healing takes place when the proper functioning of these laws is restored and pathological identifications are recognized:<\/p>\n