{"id":151165,"date":"2012-10-10T11:47:15","date_gmt":"2012-10-10T08:47:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/espirited.com\/dont-make-decisions-when-its-night\/"},"modified":"2026-02-05T11:05:07","modified_gmt":"2026-02-05T09:05:07","slug":"dont-make-decisions-when-its-night","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/espirited.com\/en\/dont-make-decisions-when-its-night\/","title":{"rendered":"Osho on Not Deciding in the Night"},"content":{"rendered":"

Below is Osho\u2019s response to a man who says he is having difficult relationships with his girlfriend and is wondering whether to continue the relationship or not.<\/p>\n

“<\/em>Don\u2019t be in a hurry, because what happens is that the mind has light moments and dark moments, day moments and night moments. When it is a day moment everything feels very good; you can see everything clearly.<\/em><\/p>\n

When night comes everything become dark and you cannot see anything clearly.<\/b><\/em><\/p>\n

Just think: we are sitting here, it is light, you can see me and you can see everybody here, you can see the trees \u2013 and then suddenly the electricity goes off. Now you cannot see anybody here; the trees and everything are gone. Will you say that now the trees no more exist and the people no longer exist? If you say that, that will be too early a decision. Can\u2019t you remember that there was a light a few moments ago and people were there and the trees were green and everything was there and things were clear?<\/em><\/p>\n

When the night is there, remember the day too \u2013 don\u2019t forget it \u2013 and soon the day will be coming. Whenever you have to decide, it is always good to decide in daytime; then your life will have a positivity. If you decide in the nighttime your life will become negative. That\u2019s my distinction between a man who is religious and a man who is not religious: the non-religious man always decides about his life in the nighttime, he decides in a negative state. That\u2019s why he cannot say God is \u2013 he says there is no God. All no\u2019s together become a big no: \u201cThere is no God.\u201d All yes\u2019s together become a big yes: \u201cYes, there is God!\u201d<\/em><\/div>\n
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So wait! Decisions have to be made when there is light.<\/strong><\/em><\/div>\n
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When you are again loving this woman and things are flowing and everything is beautiful, ecstatic, then decide, and if you want to separate, separate! But don\u2019t decide in the nighttime. That\u2019s why I say to prolong it, to watch. This will go.<\/em><\/div>\n

There is a third state also, the transcendental.<\/em><\/p>\n

When you have seen both the day and the night again and again and again, then you know that something is higher than both. You, your witnessing capacity, is higher than both.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

So there are three kinds of decisions. The first kind is a negative kind which makes life a desert. Then nothing blooms \u2013 it is a frustration, it is hell! The second kind of decision is the \u201cyes\u201d decision, the daytime decision \u2013 life becomes a joy, a celebration. There is delight and one feels very happy to be: this is what heaven is, paradise. And the third is neither light nor darkness \u2013 one simply decides out of one\u2019s witnessing; out of all of the experiences of day and night together, one decides. That is the ultimate decision, that is what makes a man enlightened. So just wait, watch, see, and let the daytime come, mm? then decide.”<\/em><\/p>\n

\u2013 Osho, Don\u2019t Decide in the Nighttime<\/a><\/p>\n

You can read more about decision-making in the article \u201cLike a Ripe Pear<\/a>.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

Kamelia Hadjiyska
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Below is Osho\u2019s response to a man who says he is having difficult relationships with his girlfriend and is wondering whether to continue the relationship or not. “Don\u2019t be in a hurry, because what happens is that the mind has light moments and dark moments, day moments and night moments. When it is a day […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":11553,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[646],"tags":[687,814,681,683],"class_list":["post-151165","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-spiritual-intelligence","tag-depression","tag-oshoen","tag-spiritual-teachers","tag-spiritual-transformation"],"acf":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t