{"id":150730,"date":"2010-02-09T10:21:45","date_gmt":"2010-02-09T08:21:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/espirited.com\/your-problem-is-not-love\/"},"modified":"2026-02-06T22:17:06","modified_gmt":"2026-02-06T20:17:06","slug":"your-problem-is-not-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/espirited.com\/en\/your-problem-is-not-love\/","title":{"rendered":"Only an independent person can love"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\" data-start=\"110\" data-end=\"535\"><em>\u201cYour problem is not love.<\/em><br data-start=\"138\" data-end=\"141\" \/><em>Your problem is that you are not able to accept yourself, to stand on your own feet, to treat yourself with respect, to do something in such a way that you can feel you have value.<\/em><br data-start=\"321\" data-end=\"324\" \/><em>Your value must arise from within you; it must not be given to you by someone else.<\/em><br data-start=\"407\" data-end=\"410\" \/><em>Borrowed value is dangerous; the other person can take it back.<\/em><br data-start=\"473\" data-end=\"476\" data-is-only-node=\"\" \/><em>And this is exactly what happens in so-called love affairs.<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\" data-start=\"537\" data-end=\"654\"><em>Only an independent person can love and be loved.<\/em><br data-start=\"586\" data-end=\"589\" \/><em>And love will not create any problem for such a person.\u201d**<\/em><br data-start=\"647\" data-end=\"650\" \/><em>Osho<\/em><\/p>\n<p data-start=\"656\" data-end=\"1239\">If we trust the principle of synchronicity that has brought this message to you now, you are currently learning one of the most important lessons in love \u2013 love for yourself. If you learn only this lesson, all the others will fall away. What matters, however, is to remain attentive to the difference between love-as-a-thought and love-as-a-feeling. You may think that you value yourself, but do you feel it? When it comes to the feeling of inner worth, ask your heart. If you feel calm at the thought that others may not approve of you or like you, then the lesson has been learned.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"1241\" data-end=\"1253\" data-is-last-node=\"\" data-is-only-node=\"\"><strong data-start=\"1241\" data-end=\"1253\" data-is-last-node=\"\">Kameliya<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cYour problem is not love.Your problem is that you are not able to accept yourself, to stand on your own feet, to treat yourself with respect, to do something in such a way that you can feel you have value.Your value must arise from within you; it must not be given to you by someone 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